When was the last time you felt like you were stuck in a season of sadness?
Where all you wanted to do was move on from this emotion because it just seemed to overwhelm your entire life, and you weren't sure when it would be over. Like there was this feeling where it would consume you if you let it.
That was the season I have been in these past few months.
My season of sadness seemed to consume me. I felt like a big part of my life had completely fallen apart, due to losing a person who I thought was my everything. The sadness seemed to be everywhere and to a point, I thought that this feeling would just consume me for the rest of my life. I would get up in the morning, read my devotionals and pray that events would change and he would come back, but what I got instead of the clarity I needed. I finally realized that there was a bigger, better plan that God had in store for my life that was completely different than what I had imagined for myself. These are just a few of the suggestions I have found that have helped me focus more on the better picture, and I would love to share them with you.
Write A List of Things You are Thankful For
I love writing lists. They are always so wonderful to have as a reminder of things that you need to get done. Now you can make this list as simple or complicated as you like, it is up to you since it's your list. At least one a week, I make myself sit down and write out a list of the things in my life that I'm thankful for. From my friends and family to the little events that have taken an effect on my life to change my perspective into something better than before.
Be Honest & Real
I know I'm not the only one, but throughout my life, I have always tried to be perfect I always wanted to look perfect, act perfect, and I began to develop that fake it till you make it mentality. That didn't help at all. In high school, I wanted to fit in with the popular girls in my class, because they literally had everything. They never seemed to be imperfect at all. It wasn't until the senior year that I pretty much gave up and just started to live my life.
Yes, I had a lot of flaws and imperfections, but I had friends to accept me for who I was.
Even today as an adult, I still have so many imperfections and flaws that I can count on both hands.
But here is the secret, it is okay.
It is okay to not be perfect.
It is okay to feel sad.
It is okay to not be the popular/perfect person.
We aren't meant to be perfect, we are meant to be humans with flaws.
This season of sadness will pass with time. As much as we all wish to send it away as soon as possible, sometimes we can't. These seasons come into our lives when we need them.
If I'm being honest, I needed this season of sadness.
I needed to have my eyes opened to the fact that I was living in a somewhat fantasy where the person I had a relationship with, the guy who I thought I would one day marry, wasn't the person I actually needed.
This season of sadness came at a difficult time, but there is always a light in the darkness.
It is okay to feel sad but don't let yourself sit there for too long.
Make sure you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and continue on your journey of life.
I promise you will get over this season and move into a better one.